restrain

Restraint is the key

Practical hints to Growing children

We often come across rebellious children crisscrossing ways with their parents while they grow in their age thinking they have discovered the whole vista of knowledge. They feel that without restrictions, they could achieve much more; the constant nagging of parents presents only stumbling block in their ways though they are yet to discover what the ways are & why they are.

Wilful behaviour though initially gives some superficial measures of happiness however in the long run; it proves to be deleterious pill. Living beings & discipline (code & rules) ought to move together. Human being highest in order naturally ought to be in higher class of discipline.

Free will is re enacting of unconscious habits. On being angry on someone, one tends to say things without measure which causes frustration & anxiety which is avoidable & regretful. Wisdom of restraint is an art we are generally stripped of in fast paced self oriented & closed world. With restrain, we can only see re-enactment & replay of predictable behaviour pattern which is self driven. Without restraint; we give up & become pawn in hands of others. With restrain, there is window of opportunity. Much to the contrary, the restrain causes freedom from our self sabotaging habits & fear based patterns. The day edifice of habits start collapsing; our enlightenment & evolution commences.

a.       Decide first the intention to break the habit pattern with sincerity. Pattern may be nail biting, eating poorly, arguing too great length, smoking etc.

b.      When you notice the emergence of habit pattern, pause, take breath, step away from the pattern.

c.       Congratulate yourself fro breaking the habit pattern.

When one begins to dismantle the habits, it may not happen immediately; continue without break or disappointment. Come out more strongly against shameless habits  as they are enemies from within which carries potential to rot in extremely ugly form.